In Which Golden Rules are Meant to be Broken

Like the one about sharing?  There is a point where it's necessary to scream "TMI" to the heavens.  I've just about reached that point.

(I will not name names, but those who read this can prolly infer who I'm talking about.)

I have a very close guy friend.  I also have a close female friend.  They're hanging out on the weekends.

...and making out.

The girl - let's call her *Bathsheba - is having school problems, but not boy problems.  Luckily for me, she doesn't bother me much about it for advice.  The boy - who we'll call *Adonijah - is having girl problems, which will - according to him - lead to school problems.  Unlike Bathsheba, he always bothers me for advice about it.  They're a problematic couple, you see.

Bathsheba is okay with this "friends-with-kissy-face" situation because she isn't ready for a relationship right now.  However, Adonijah is having some feelings.  These strong feelings are causing him a great deal of confusion and pain.  I'm not trying to downplay his feelings, but I've told him he will probably have to deal with this on his own.

Unfortunately for me, he has spent the better part of the last month asking me for advice.  I want to help him, but I've discovered I don't know how to.  So, not only will he not stop reminding me he's in pain, but he's now constantly rubbing in my face that for one of the first times in my life, I can't help someone.

It's a scary thing that I can't help.  I'm my group's therapist.  They come to me when they need advice or help or just to rant.  But, for once, I want Adonijah to stop coming to me.  I actually started crying today because I'm drowning in his pain!  I'm sure he doesn't mean to be doing that, but that doesn't change the fact that other people's drama is suffocating me.

Normally I'd be okay with handling other people's drama.  It's not the first time I've had to do it.  But, in relation to this post, I've just got over a whole lot of my own drama.  I'm in no state to be sorting out the problems of my friends when I am struggling with my own.

Well, that's really all I had to say.  I needed to get that off my chest.

One more thing before I go:  we might not have Quidditch at the party, guys.  Rebecca and I are considering a smaller-scale thing, but I'm not sure how that'll go.  Regardless, we'll still have fun - we're a fun group.  It's not the end of the world if it doesn't happen because you can trust me when I say we've got alternatives.

That's all.

-Hannah

*These are some Talmudic allusions.  Just sayin'.